Transitioning in Singapore?

Hello I'm a transman that's not from singapore, I prefer to not disclose my country as the LGBT community here are not openly accepted. Wish to start my transition in singapore :-)

Currently pre-T and 20 years old, saw few posts here about Ts, just wondering how much will the T shots costs and will I have to go through psychologists in order to diagnose me before starting T?

Approximate prices will help me alot, thanks admin for posting this and for all your answers.

It's taking forever

It's been more than 2 years since I have the first stage for my bottom surgery and is still not over. I felt so frustrating and my life have been basically been put on hold. I get emotionally time to time that is still not over. Looking at all the scare I've gain from my lower surgery sometimes make me feels like what the f*** I'm going with myself. Sigh, I can wait for this to be over. It's taking forever. 

Never settle

I'm gay but i love this girl?

I’m in a committed relationship with a woman, and have been for a while, but I’m afraid that when I transition I’m going to be a gay ftm, because most of the time I feel like I am a gay man trapped in a woman’s body, but at the same time I really love this girl and don’t want to lose her and I’m so unsure of what to do.

codywillow answered: If you feel that you really love this girl, then I’m sure you’ll still love her regardless of your body. Love is so much more complicated that black and white. 

wildisthewolf answered: Love is love! You may very well be gay, but being gay will not detract your feelings for *this particular* individual. Sexuality can be a moving target. 

charliefromscratch answered: My gender therapist is ftm, and he has always stated that he feels like a gay man, even though he is in a relationship with a woman. You can self identify however you choose and still be with her if you love her. Being with her wouldn’t negate that. 

thevoicestories said: I am a gay man in a woman’s body too. I have learned that romance and sexuality are not the same thing. I feel in love with two girls (not at the same time). I believe i am panromantic and still gay. Yes it makes things difficult but it made me Feel a lot better to know that it isn’t uncommon and totally not strange or weird.

silver-and-stardust answered: I wouldn’t worry about it till it happens man, there’s a lot of reasons we can feel like a “gay guy in a girls body” and some of it can just be feminine stereotyping of gay guys, and don’t forget bi is always an option too depending on your feelings! 

Don’t get caught up in labels. Love breaks down any sort of barrier that anyone can build. If you love her, be with her. It’s only for you to decide. But don’t stay with her because you think is right. You need to give her a fair life, as you both deserve! -- ftmtransgendersupport 

Trans* Twin Stories

I’m drab and a twin. My sister is hugely supportive of anything LGBTQ and I love her for that. In my head, I know she’ll support me when I come out to her. But I don’t want this twin bond thing to go away, because we lack this one thing. I’m scared it’ll be too tough for her to accept that her twin sister, whom she’s been steadily growing closer to over the years, isn’t actually that at all. 

This sounds familiar!!  When my identical twin brother came out, I was happy and worried (only because being transgender did NOT sound easy at all), and absolutely not surprised.  I knew I’d never had a normal, girly sister; I’d interacted with my twin as I would with a boy ever since middle school.

Once he came out, his life and his outlook changed drastically for the better.  Our bond grew stronger as he transitioned, and he became more confident and happier. --insertcaffeine

I’m a twin too and when I came out to her she was very supportive. She told me that to her I was always her brother. She supports me when I need someone to talk or feeling down in fact it strengthened our twin bond because we got closer l.  --912-love

Hunny your sister will love you no matter what. My twin sister (im male) are super close. Plus if ur sister fully supports LGBTQA+ she will totes understand  --Bennett Smith

I am a transman and I’m attracted to androgynous women/men and I'm afraid I'll be ridiculed

…and I feel like if i’m open about that i’ll be emasculated and assumed that I still want to be a “lesbian”. My partner is very fluid in her gender expression and is teased when she dresses “boy-ish” by a few of her really feminine friends and ask if I care about how she looks, when in fact I love how she looks, I love androgyne. Is it terrible of me to admit that to my cis-male friends? I’m afraid i’ll be made fun of..

raleighthebird said: I am a trans man who has been struggling with this for a very long time as well. It’s nice to come across someone who has the same attraction to androgynous woman as a trans man. 

Transphobic family won’t let me get a “mans haircut”

I need to get this off my chest so I’m sending this here. I’ve identified as a genderfluid for years. I have a transphobic/homophobic family and I’m not allowed to get a “mans haircut.” I wear a binder everyday and men’s clothes. I’m a closet transgender. I haven’t told anyone yet and I’m too afraid to tell my friends and girlfriend. I’m 16 and have decided that the moment I can move out I’m going to get a haircut and come out. I’m just scared that people won’t accept me, and I already know I’m going to lose my family. 

rainbowredo said: If they won’t let you cut your hair “like a man”, you could look for longer hairstyles for men? If you get a shoulder length haircut you could both pass and not have a “man’s haircut” (or, alternatively, get photos of celebrities with short hair) ^^ 

I identify as FTM and my bro is gay

transmanconfessions:

I need to get this off my chest so I’m sending this here. I’ve identified as a genderfluid for years. I have a transphobic/homophobic family and I’m not allowed to get a “mans haircut.” I wear a binder everyday and men’s clothes. I’m a closet transgender. I haven’t told anyone yet and I’m too afraid to tell my friends and girlfriend. I’m 16 and have decided that the moment I can move out I’m going to get a haircut and come out. I’m just scared that people won’t accept me, and I already know I’m going to lose my family. 

Hey there. I identify as FTM and my bro is gay. I’m still in the closet by choice  but my bro came out to my parents a decade ago. I’m from a conservative family. It took them a couple of years to accept it but they did come around.

Fear is a real bitch. What you can do is to write down all the possible scenarios that might happen, plan for those scenarios and build a supportive network around you. The reason for the fear is unpreparedness for what might happen. You don’t need to feel compelled to come out ASAP - give yourself time to prepare. 

As for friends who will ditch you - haters will be haters. Find the true friends who will love you for who you are. Find it in you to love yourself.

http://venyal.tumblr.com/post/125773973074/transphobic-family

A case of bad wording and high confusion

Hey, I just turned trans and I’m wondering how do I meet women?

I used to be a very flamboyant sexual energised lesbian and now I’m a scared closed off introverted man. I feel like I’m lying to women if I flirt with them. Help? 

sincerelykarsen answered: You don’t just “turn” trans, man. If that’s who you’ve always been, just rock it. Be honest straight up. Find an open minded person and let them get to know your soul. Your physical traits won’t be important if you’ve found your soul mate. 

closetkazeftm said: Be yourself love yourself and let the people that are supposed to be in your life present themselves the only love that’s important in the beginning of a transition is the love you grow for yourself👑❤️ 

azzy-fox answered: If you feel like flirting may be going somewhere (and you’re not immediately viewed as male), let them know what’s up. You have to decide who is and isn’t worth telling you’re trans, especially when dating is in play. Shoot me an ask anytime hon! 

caleocookie said: The point in where you are expressing your interests for each other but still haven’t made any commitments is the bet time. 

caleocookie answered: After enough flirting and you are considering becoming serious, then flirting happens less and serious conversation happens more. If you trust her with this information, just let her know you are trans. 

domsofar said: You don’t turn trans, dude. But talk to them the same, but know most women won’t mind but you do need to be prepared for them to be caught off gaurd or not be into it. Don’t take it personally, but make sure they know before it gets serous.