Wishful thinking

I’m a transman and I really wish my trans girlfriend would give me head at anytime and not only right after I’ve showered :/

Trans healthcare

With all the political talks going in Singapore now, what i'm looking for is only healthcare, that includes trans. 

Bottom surgery frustration

It's been more than 2 years since I have the first stage for my bottom surgery and is still not over. I felt so frustrating and my life have been basically been put on hold. I get emotionally time to time that is still not over. Looking at all the scare I've gain from my lower surgery sometimes make me feels like what the f*** I'm going with myself. Sigh, I can wait for this to be over. It's taking forever. 

Thoughts on The Danish Girl

... since it's similar to About Ray? I believe Eddie Redmayne (cis-male) portrays a transwoman who only realised she was a woman after cross-dressing as a game with her wife. It seems to be portrayed positively and respectfully, like About Ray, despite AR's ignorant director. I don't mind them using cis-actors since really good trans actors are hard to find (as in, not easily discovered) and these films are only just starting to become mainstream. Its a good start to me.

Depressed while trans

50 percent of the trans community deals with depression. 50 FUCKING PERCENT. I AM NOT ALONE, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS. WE WILL BE OKAY.

Never settle

I'm gay but i love this girl?

I’m in a committed relationship with a woman, and have been for a while, but I’m afraid that when I transition I’m going to be a gay ftm, because most of the time I feel like I am a gay man trapped in a woman’s body, but at the same time I really love this girl and don’t want to lose her and I’m so unsure of what to do.

codywillow answered: If you feel that you really love this girl, then I’m sure you’ll still love her regardless of your body. Love is so much more complicated that black and white. 

wildisthewolf answered: Love is love! You may very well be gay, but being gay will not detract your feelings for *this particular* individual. Sexuality can be a moving target. 

charliefromscratch answered: My gender therapist is ftm, and he has always stated that he feels like a gay man, even though he is in a relationship with a woman. You can self identify however you choose and still be with her if you love her. Being with her wouldn’t negate that. 

thevoicestories said: I am a gay man in a woman’s body too. I have learned that romance and sexuality are not the same thing. I feel in love with two girls (not at the same time). I believe i am panromantic and still gay. Yes it makes things difficult but it made me Feel a lot better to know that it isn’t uncommon and totally not strange or weird.

silver-and-stardust answered: I wouldn’t worry about it till it happens man, there’s a lot of reasons we can feel like a “gay guy in a girls body” and some of it can just be feminine stereotyping of gay guys, and don’t forget bi is always an option too depending on your feelings! 

Don’t get caught up in labels. Love breaks down any sort of barrier that anyone can build. If you love her, be with her. It’s only for you to decide. But don’t stay with her because you think is right. You need to give her a fair life, as you both deserve! -- ftmtransgendersupport 

I am a transman and I’m attracted to androgynous women/men and I'm afraid I'll be ridiculed

…and I feel like if i’m open about that i’ll be emasculated and assumed that I still want to be a “lesbian”. My partner is very fluid in her gender expression and is teased when she dresses “boy-ish” by a few of her really feminine friends and ask if I care about how she looks, when in fact I love how she looks, I love androgyne. Is it terrible of me to admit that to my cis-male friends? I’m afraid i’ll be made fun of..

raleighthebird said: I am a trans man who has been struggling with this for a very long time as well. It’s nice to come across someone who has the same attraction to androgynous woman as a trans man. 

Hey, I just turned trans and I’m wondering how do I meet women?

I used to be a very flamboyant sexual energised lesbian and now I’m a scared closed off introverted man. I feel like I’m lying to women if I flirt with them. Help? 

sincerelykarsen answered: You don’t just “turn” trans, man. If that’s who you’ve always been, just rock it. Be honest straight up. Find an open minded person and let them get to know your soul. Your physical traits won’t be important if you’ve found your soul mate. 

closetkazeftm said: Be yourself love yourself and let the people that are supposed to be in your life present themselves the only love that’s important in the beginning of a transition is the love you grow for yourself👑❤️ 

azzy-fox answered: If you feel like flirting may be going somewhere (and you’re not immediately viewed as male), let them know what’s up. You have to decide who is and isn’t worth telling you’re trans, especially when dating is in play. Shoot me an ask anytime hon! 

caleocookie said: The point in where you are expressing your interests for each other but still haven’t made any commitments is the bet time. 

caleocookie answered: After enough flirting and you are considering becoming serious, then flirting happens less and serious conversation happens more. If you trust her with this information, just let her know you are trans. 

domsofar said: You don’t turn trans, dude. But talk to them the same, but know most women won’t mind but you do need to be prepared for them to be caught off gaurd or not be into it. Don’t take it personally, but make sure they know before it gets serous. 

staying alive

The only thing that keeps me from killing myself is that I know my mom will be very sad 

thelifeofkaiblog said: My boyfriend & I feel like this about each other. I don’t think I could do it, but my boyfriend probably could :/ When he’s depressed, he says he’s fed up of living for other people, but he also says that I keep him alive - so it’s needed sometimes. 

I'm living with people whom i love, but

they not seeing who I am. For many reasons I gotta stay in the closet for some time. And there is no transman support group where i am. The loneliness is unbearable. anyone struggling with loneliness?

Genderqueer?

Names Marcel. Genderqueer. I Dunno bout most of you but sometimes being genderqueer sucks cuz I feel like I don’t fit anywhere… 

Like I still question if I’m trans and if I am i dunno if I could ever have the guts to go through the transition, and if I’m not I feel like people in the straight and gay community look at me like I’m just another trend following confused girl… 

Even people in the gay community look at genderqueer and trans questioning people like they are just another trend.. Like I can’t even be open about my name change cuz I’m afraid of people not respecting it. I don’t want to face the embarrassment… 

How do you get past people judging you for…basically not knowing who you are yet? 

Much love

Love the blog. Much love my friends👌🏼😀

— jesuisunours

is there?

Is there a transwoman version of this blog

can't open up

I’m scared of telling my mum, not for the fact that I’ll get ridiculed or anything, just the pure fact that I can’t open up to people.

Sometimes my dysphoria makes me want to kill myself so badly

but I'm afraid to talk to anyone about it because I don't want to make my other transgender friends more dysphoric or feel like I need to rely on them, and no one else would understand.

I'm a transman, and I have a 13 y/o gender neutral sibling that really wants to wear a binder

but the idea scares me. I've been wearing a binder for a year, and I don't think I need to explain that it's not a 100% pleasant experience. I think 13 is too young to wear a binder. What do you think?

Who tf is christopher khor

 and why is he such a disgrace? I'm confused

respect pronouns

To that anon, even if you're pissed off about Christopher, respect his gender pronouns.

#thetransfamily kik

#thetransfamily is not a KIK group anymore?