health screening

Conversation during pre-employment screening:
[I still have the body I'm born with, not on T either]

Doc: Are you on long term medication?
Me: No.
Inner voice: Does Testosterone count?

D: Have you had any major operation?
M: No.
IV: Does Mastectomy, Hysterectomy, Salpingo-oophorectomy, & Metoidioplasty count?

Then...
D: We'll do breast examination now. Please unhook your bra & lie on the bed.
IV: Huh? What bra?

I left the clinic feeling uneasy.

unsafe

I recently found out that my home will never be safe for me. I can't come out, nor can I express myself at all without the threat of "rebuilding my femininity". I'm so scared.

gym buddy?

Hi everyone. I am a transgender. I'm living at Bukit Panjang, Singapore. Looking for a buddy to go to the gym. Leave message if you are interesting and I will add you. Thank you.

Endocrinologist in Singapore

Can anyone recommend a good endocrinologist in singapore that can help me with HRT ? I know private docs are really ex, is there any specific one that are cheaper as i am still schooling >< . also does government hospital still does HRT for transgenders. I have a psychiatric report if that is necessary 

pump

Has any transman here tried to use a pump to grow a dick? 

how to start

How do i start my transition ? Where can i find an endocrinologist that would help me in singapore?

all i can see when i look at myself

All I can see when I look at myself is a guy's face but almost nobody I'm out to calls me by the right pronouns and when I'm binding people who don't know me still think I'm a girl and i hate it and kinda myself for it

I don't fit in anywhere

Names Marcel. Genderqueer. I Dunno bout most of you but sometimes being genderqueer sucks cuz I feel like I don’t fit anywhere… Like I still question if I’m trans and if I am i dunno if I could ever have the guts to go through the transition, and if I’m not I feel like people in the straight and gay community look at me like I’m just another trend following confused girl… Even people in the gay community look at genderqueer and trans questioning people like they are just another trend.. Like I can’t even be open about my name change cuz I’m afraid of people not respecting it. I don’t want to face the embarrassment… How do you get past people judging you for…basically not knowing who you are yet?

i'm having fantasies

I feel like since transitioning (2 years in less than a month on hormones, pre-op ) I'm open to ALL sexes and identities where as before transitioning I wasn't, what's wrong with me? Im having fantasies giving blow jobs to cis males gay and straight

Do straight transmen have straight privilege?

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Do straight transmen have straight privilege?
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yeah kind of, but it’s one of those trickier areas of privilege (idk anything about singapore though, sorry for not being any help there)

like if you don’t pass you have almost no straight privilege really because when you’re out with your partner people will perceive it as a gay relationship

but if you do pass you do get straight privilege as awarded to you in a lot of social situations, but if you are still legally recognized as female you obviously wouldn’t get the privileges heterosexual people have legally, ie, you can’t get married if you like somewhere where same sex marriage is

all straight transmen do get a level of privilege from being the default though. like, I’m a gay asexual transman for example, and it can be rather alienating that there doesn’t seem to me many of me out there, but it’s not hard to find loads of the “lesbian turned straight male” narrative out there.

Theres really a lot of levels to this and I could go on forever but really when it comes to privilege grey areas like this the best thing for you to do is be self aware of where you are privileged and don’t overstep your boundaries with it. I don’t think it’s a good idea to make blanket statements over all straight transmen as having straight privilege because that’s just not true.
-seagrady