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28/06/2014

Wanna date me?

I'm actually having a long distance relationship with my gf for 2 years now. But her unreasonable is really getting too much. Maybe because I always give in to her and she taken for granted. Now she broken off with me again, so many times that I can count. Is there any female who wanna date a mid 30s FTM? I'm leaving my number with admin..

[J, Singapore]

Bad luck in love

I have been on T for 2 years plus, and it's been going great other than the acnes that is killing me. No one will think that I'm a female and all see me as a cisguy.
I been very frank and straight up to confess that I'm pre-op transman if anyone ask.

But it seems that I'm been having rather bad luck in the love section. I'm abt 5'7" and weighs 65kg, looks consider average.
Just don't understand why no one seems to be interested in me. Maybe I just look too "cool" to approach?

[Wonder Why, Singapore]

Gay FTM

I'm a gay ftm and I'm afraid that no one will ever be attracted to me...
I've looked up other ftm's stories and they've all mentioned that the moment they reveal they are trans, gay cis men immediately just put them in the friend-box.

[WW, Singapore]

27/06/2014

Puberty voice

when all my dmab friends were going through puberty and having random voice braking, I got sick and sometimes it would sound like my voice was braking as well, and there was this one moment when i thought i was going through puberty the right way,
james

24/06/2014

Falling for a straight guy

I consider myself straight, but I ended up falling really hard for one of my guy friends who doesn't know that I'm biologicaly female. We started getting reay close, but I knew he was straight so I never got my hopes up. He ended up admitting to me once that he felt like his life would be a lot easier if he was gay, and that he could easily be romantically attracted to a guy, but he's very sexual and he'd be fine until you know... the dick. If you don't see where this is going I don't know what to say. It was the most difficult and heartbreaking moment of my life because I could give up my stealth and possibly get a chance with a really great guy, but what if he saw me as a girl after that? What if he thought I was disgusting? I hate being reminded of my condition, and I hate that the only reason I would have had the chance with him was because I had female genitalia. It was frustrating. I didn't say anything, but would it have been worth it?

[Zach, UK]

Aggressive, confused, lost

[[[ Trigger Warning for domestic violence ]]]

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Hi everyone. Im a transman. An indian. Im here to seek closure and bear out all my sorrows.
Im from singapore. I've got a beautiful gf whom I've been dating for a yr and a half. Everything was going smoothly with occasional fights. My gf always emphasis that I shld remain as a butch. But cos of been humilated too much by her family her frens and by her ex bf and his family and frens. I was adamant of changing.

But of cos it was my dream too. T shots are making me aggressive. Thats what my gf claims. Every little things that gets screwed up she links it with me and my t shots. Recently she came clean that she dont wish to support my dream. I've been under depression as she keeps stressing me. Fights have worsen.
My rage have turned me into a monster. Ive become physically abusive twds her. She's getting out of hand. I love her too much and I didnt want to lose her. I realise I need to control my emotions. I tried seeking help.

Wherever I get a counsellor. She always reject the idea. She believes nth is wrong with her. When I suggest that mayb i should go alone. She doesnt agree to that. She keeps saying mayb it's she who might have provoke my rage. Im confused.

She's not been cooperative. Fearing that I'll lose her I seek counselling secretly. But yet another blow. Her ex bf and she had been secretly keeping in contact since last yr dec. Since the time I took t shots. He msged her saying he's sorry that he made her a lesbian and he wans her bac.
She's been liking all his single shots pics in instagram. She took me off fb and change all her pwds. Now everything seems to fall into places. She pissed me off to be in contact with him. Aft i lose my mind and whacked her badly. She started comparing me with her ex. Saying how great he is. How he dont whack her.

She called the cops. But somehow we cooled the matter. And she told me she wants me and she dont know y she entertain her ex. She dont want me to cont to b a transman. She dont have a valid reason too. Im diasapointed and hurt by what she had done. I can't make maself to forgive her. What can I do ?
I feel lost. She have controlled me not to chat with girls. I can't extend my frens circle by adding more transmen. I got no friends. I dont know what happened. Y she do that.

[Singapore]

Horny animal

I've been waking up horny in the middle of the night for some time. Considering my sex drive is already so high pre-T, I can only imagine how much of an animal I'd be when I finally start my shots. ARGH.

[Insatiable, Singapore] 

Gender therapist in Singapore?

In states, ppl seek help from gender therapist. But in singapore who can we look for besides oohachaga? Is there any good gender therapist that i could seek help from? My dysphoria and anxieties are killing me. [Anon, Singapore]
As far as I know:
1) Oogachaga - website
2) The Relational (ask for Colin) - website
3) Think Psychological Services - website

Alternatively, get in touch with the friendly guys from The Sons [ Tumblr / Facebook ], I understand they meet up regularly and may be able to help point you in the right direction. If nothing else, knowing that there are others like you who have gone through similar struggles may help alleviate some of your anxieties.

If any of our readers here have been to a good counsellor in Singapore, would you kindly share the organisation and your experience with him/her?

x Shay

What size binder?

sirjohnwales asked: 
Hello! I was wondering, what size binder should i get if my bust is 42 inches around and i'm going by north american sizes? I'm thinking of getting a binder from underworks.
Hi Sir, I'm guessing it would be an XL going by the size chart provided on each page of the website. http://www.f2mbinders.com/binding-tops/tanks/tri-top-chest-binder
It still takes a bit of trial & error though. I would suggest getting 1 or 2 different sizes and trying each one out for a couple days so you can be sure of which one fits best, and then buy more of that. As for the one that didn't fit - give it away :) 

Perhaps some of the more experienced Underworks FTM customers here may be able to help with this question? 

x Shay

15/06/2014

Some Reassembly Required - a Singaporean documentary on transmen

Hello everyone,

My name is Christopher, and I’m the filmmaker that’s working on the Singaporean documentary about transmen.

We’re very happy to announce that we’ve launched our website, www.somereassemblyrequired.com!

Our Social Media pages are also up:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somereassemblyrequired
Instagram: http://instagram.com/srr_docu
Twitter: https://twitter.com/srr_docu

Please do Like/Follow us as we go on our journey to document the diverse lives of transmen in Singapore.

If anyone would like to get in touch with me directly, feel free to e-mail me at chris@somereassemblyrequired.com, or send me a Facebook message.

Thanks, fellows. Really excited for this. Hope we do right by the community.

- Christopher J. Khor

11/06/2014

Appreciation

Hi there! Not sure if I'm allowed to post on the wall like this but I just wanted to say how I appreciate this page and for trans men in singapore coming forward. It's really important because when I lived in Singapore I felt like I had no resources for someone like me. Even this recommend supposed "gender specialist" therapist didn't help and constantly misgendered me and called me by my birth name (btw if you want to know who this is please message me so I can give you some warning before you see this person). Now I'm living in Japan and while I plan on not returning to Singapore (due to my abusive family being there) I just want to send all my support for my fellow trans guys who are there : )

[Myles Vine, Japan]

Mistaken

Being mistaken as a butch but not able to come out as a pre- everything trans guy.