After i left uni, i aimed to transition at the age of 30 after i have save more than enough for backup. By the age of 29, i had the material things i want…a nice car , condo etc. However, thanks to certain unfortunate circumstances which i will not go into details, i sank into huge debts. I could no longer afford to upkeep my car and condo and even after selling those liabilities off, I was still in debt! I was devastated and was at the lowest point of my life. I did ponder ending my life but i told myself that things happen for a reason. It might be a test of my strength to see if i can handle being a man. It took me 4 years to pay off my debt,thanks to a well paying job. During the 4 debt ridden years in butch wear, andro office wear, i dragged myself to work and told myself i must endure the miserable times for the only way out that time to get out of debt and afford surgery was to stick to my job. The day i paid off my debt,i bought myself a bottle of wine to celebrate the good days in advance and made an appointment with the psychiatrist to start taking hormone. The following month, i tailored a men's suit,bought a few men's shirts and started dressing more manly to work. It was to slowly prepare my colleagues about my change. My boss and ex colleagues are aware of my transition. My boss doesn't give a damn as to him work and personal affairs don't go together. Some colleagues were supportive, some did not mention it and we continued to work together. (I'm not sure if people gossiped behind my back but i don't give a shit). I'm now in another company and only the hr lady who interviewed me know about my past.
I advise u OP, to get a job first and do well. Don't doubt that you can't be employed be it pre or post transition. It's actually easier to transition in your current job where your colleagues and boss already know you than move to a new job while u just started hormones and then attract gossips about a female growing more hair, voice getting deeper.
In order to have the money to transition, you need to think long term.... i.e.have sufficient funds for surgery and savings to tide u over in case you lose your job due to transitioning. In this era, It's highly unlikely as your work performance is more important than how u look. Assuming you really do get the sack or you will be unhappy in your job, at least you have relevant work experience by then.
If you are not able to get a well paying job, just get any jobs you can lay your hands on first. Always set aside money in the "transition funds" no matter how hard it is. Assuming you will not highly paid, when you want to buy something be it for yourself or to impress girls, ask yourself whether you really need it and will spending the $ on the girl gets you laid? Every single penny counts. Always spend your money on beneficial things like healthy food or enrichment stuff.
You have to ask yourself how badly you want to transition. I have to be direct here…fearing that you will not be employed shows that your intention to transition is not strong enough. When there's a will, there's a way! I would say luck plays a small part in my employment. The biggest part is that i believe i will still have a career. If i can't be employed,then i'll start a business. (being an insurance or real estate agent, doing network marketing falls under the category of being self employed too) There are many ways to earn money and worried about being unemployed is not your major concern. What you should be thinking about now is letting your family know about your plan, taking care of your health and saving up for your surgery. At least go for the first surgery so that you can change your ID. Next you can start to save up more to complete the transition.
Good luck and all the best!
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[Admin] This was one of the earliest submissions from when this page first started. I thought it deserves a re-post now that we have more followers. It was in response to this post: https://www.facebook.com/
x Shay
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