Transitioning in Singapore?

Hello I'm a transman that's not from singapore, I prefer to not disclose my country as the LGBT community here are not openly accepted. Wish to start my transition in singapore :-)

Currently pre-T and 20 years old, saw few posts here about Ts, just wondering how much will the T shots costs and will I have to go through psychologists in order to diagnose me before starting T?

Approximate prices will help me alot, thanks admin for posting this and for all your answers.

It's taking forever

It's been more than 2 years since I have the first stage for my bottom surgery and is still not over. I felt so frustrating and my life have been basically been put on hold. I get emotionally time to time that is still not over. Looking at all the scare I've gain from my lower surgery sometimes make me feels like what the f*** I'm going with myself. Sigh, I can wait for this to be over. It's taking forever. 

Never settle

I'm gay but i love this girl?

I’m in a committed relationship with a woman, and have been for a while, but I’m afraid that when I transition I’m going to be a gay ftm, because most of the time I feel like I am a gay man trapped in a woman’s body, but at the same time I really love this girl and don’t want to lose her and I’m so unsure of what to do.

codywillow answered: If you feel that you really love this girl, then I’m sure you’ll still love her regardless of your body. Love is so much more complicated that black and white. 

wildisthewolf answered: Love is love! You may very well be gay, but being gay will not detract your feelings for *this particular* individual. Sexuality can be a moving target. 

charliefromscratch answered: My gender therapist is ftm, and he has always stated that he feels like a gay man, even though he is in a relationship with a woman. You can self identify however you choose and still be with her if you love her. Being with her wouldn’t negate that. 

thevoicestories said: I am a gay man in a woman’s body too. I have learned that romance and sexuality are not the same thing. I feel in love with two girls (not at the same time). I believe i am panromantic and still gay. Yes it makes things difficult but it made me Feel a lot better to know that it isn’t uncommon and totally not strange or weird.

silver-and-stardust answered: I wouldn’t worry about it till it happens man, there’s a lot of reasons we can feel like a “gay guy in a girls body” and some of it can just be feminine stereotyping of gay guys, and don’t forget bi is always an option too depending on your feelings! 

Don’t get caught up in labels. Love breaks down any sort of barrier that anyone can build. If you love her, be with her. It’s only for you to decide. But don’t stay with her because you think is right. You need to give her a fair life, as you both deserve! -- ftmtransgendersupport 

Trans* Twin Stories

I’m drab and a twin. My sister is hugely supportive of anything LGBTQ and I love her for that. In my head, I know she’ll support me when I come out to her. But I don’t want this twin bond thing to go away, because we lack this one thing. I’m scared it’ll be too tough for her to accept that her twin sister, whom she’s been steadily growing closer to over the years, isn’t actually that at all. 

This sounds familiar!!  When my identical twin brother came out, I was happy and worried (only because being transgender did NOT sound easy at all), and absolutely not surprised.  I knew I’d never had a normal, girly sister; I’d interacted with my twin as I would with a boy ever since middle school.

Once he came out, his life and his outlook changed drastically for the better.  Our bond grew stronger as he transitioned, and he became more confident and happier. --insertcaffeine

I’m a twin too and when I came out to her she was very supportive. She told me that to her I was always her brother. She supports me when I need someone to talk or feeling down in fact it strengthened our twin bond because we got closer l.  --912-love

Hunny your sister will love you no matter what. My twin sister (im male) are super close. Plus if ur sister fully supports LGBTQA+ she will totes understand  --Bennett Smith

I am a transman and I’m attracted to androgynous women/men and I'm afraid I'll be ridiculed

…and I feel like if i’m open about that i’ll be emasculated and assumed that I still want to be a “lesbian”. My partner is very fluid in her gender expression and is teased when she dresses “boy-ish” by a few of her really feminine friends and ask if I care about how she looks, when in fact I love how she looks, I love androgyne. Is it terrible of me to admit that to my cis-male friends? I’m afraid i’ll be made fun of..

raleighthebird said: I am a trans man who has been struggling with this for a very long time as well. It’s nice to come across someone who has the same attraction to androgynous woman as a trans man. 

Transphobic family won’t let me get a “mans haircut”

I need to get this off my chest so I’m sending this here. I’ve identified as a genderfluid for years. I have a transphobic/homophobic family and I’m not allowed to get a “mans haircut.” I wear a binder everyday and men’s clothes. I’m a closet transgender. I haven’t told anyone yet and I’m too afraid to tell my friends and girlfriend. I’m 16 and have decided that the moment I can move out I’m going to get a haircut and come out. I’m just scared that people won’t accept me, and I already know I’m going to lose my family. 

rainbowredo said: If they won’t let you cut your hair “like a man”, you could look for longer hairstyles for men? If you get a shoulder length haircut you could both pass and not have a “man’s haircut” (or, alternatively, get photos of celebrities with short hair) ^^ 

I identify as FTM and my bro is gay

transmanconfessions:

I need to get this off my chest so I’m sending this here. I’ve identified as a genderfluid for years. I have a transphobic/homophobic family and I’m not allowed to get a “mans haircut.” I wear a binder everyday and men’s clothes. I’m a closet transgender. I haven’t told anyone yet and I’m too afraid to tell my friends and girlfriend. I’m 16 and have decided that the moment I can move out I’m going to get a haircut and come out. I’m just scared that people won’t accept me, and I already know I’m going to lose my family. 

Hey there. I identify as FTM and my bro is gay. I’m still in the closet by choice  but my bro came out to my parents a decade ago. I’m from a conservative family. It took them a couple of years to accept it but they did come around.

Fear is a real bitch. What you can do is to write down all the possible scenarios that might happen, plan for those scenarios and build a supportive network around you. The reason for the fear is unpreparedness for what might happen. You don’t need to feel compelled to come out ASAP - give yourself time to prepare. 

As for friends who will ditch you - haters will be haters. Find the true friends who will love you for who you are. Find it in you to love yourself.

http://venyal.tumblr.com/post/125773973074/transphobic-family

A case of bad wording and high confusion

Hey, I just turned trans and I’m wondering how do I meet women?

I used to be a very flamboyant sexual energised lesbian and now I’m a scared closed off introverted man. I feel like I’m lying to women if I flirt with them. Help? 

sincerelykarsen answered: You don’t just “turn” trans, man. If that’s who you’ve always been, just rock it. Be honest straight up. Find an open minded person and let them get to know your soul. Your physical traits won’t be important if you’ve found your soul mate. 

closetkazeftm said: Be yourself love yourself and let the people that are supposed to be in your life present themselves the only love that’s important in the beginning of a transition is the love you grow for yourself👑❤️ 

azzy-fox answered: If you feel like flirting may be going somewhere (and you’re not immediately viewed as male), let them know what’s up. You have to decide who is and isn’t worth telling you’re trans, especially when dating is in play. Shoot me an ask anytime hon! 

caleocookie said: The point in where you are expressing your interests for each other but still haven’t made any commitments is the bet time. 

caleocookie answered: After enough flirting and you are considering becoming serious, then flirting happens less and serious conversation happens more. If you trust her with this information, just let her know you are trans. 

domsofar said: You don’t turn trans, dude. But talk to them the same, but know most women won’t mind but you do need to be prepared for them to be caught off gaurd or not be into it. Don’t take it personally, but make sure they know before it gets serous. 

Hey I just turned trans and I'm wondering how do I meet women?

love-struck-philly:

transmanconfessions:

and I’m wondering how do I meet women? I used to be a very flamboyant sexual energised lesbian and now I’m a scared closed off introverted man. I feel like I’m lying to women if I flirt with them. Help? 

You are not lying to anyone! Keep in mind that by realizing that you are trans, you are embracing who you’ve always been in a new way, not becoming a brand new person. Flirt as normal, and treat women with respect- you probably know firsthand how it can feel to be hit on by a man so make use of your past experience and let it educate how you approach the women you are interested in. If you are comfortable with doing so, you may find some luck in lesbian spaces such as gay bars since you know a good majority of the women there will probably be into what you are packing if things get serious down the line (plus, the LGBT community is a little more likely to know what being trans means). At the same time, respect yourself as well, and don’t put up with anyone who puts you down for being trans or who disrespects your body and own personal desires and boundaries. It is one thing to be uneducated and willing to learn, it is another thing to be openly transphobic and harmful.

If things start getting hot and heavy, feel free to let them know what’s up and go from there. The important thing to keep in mind is that some women will be attracted to people with vaginas but not a male mind, and some women will be attracted to people with vaginas as well as a male mind. If a girl isn’t interested in you because you are a man even though you have the parts she is interested in, try not to take it personally. You can be attracted to a gender separately from a sex. For example, I am a transman who is pansexual but attracted to the female gender. That means I am interested in sex with anyone regardless of their parts and how they relate to them, but more comfortable being in an actual relationship with a cis or transwoman. Hopefully this makes sense! Romantic and sexual orientations are a complex subject with infinite combinations. It is 100% possible to be trans and have a healthy relationship. (Also, if she is interested in someone with a penis, you can always remind her that strap-ons are a thing, if you are comfortable with using one! I personally joke that being trans means I can literally tailor my dick to the tastes of the receiver. I feel like a radical pleasure cyborg and it’s awesome.)

Just like with cis dating, it can take some tries and failures before finding someone you are compatible with, and just like cis dating, never settle for someone who makes you feel uncomfortable and/or who hurts you on a regular basis and is unwilling to work with you and learn how to treat you right. A relationship is a two/multi-way street and requires equal effort from everyone involved. The effort that goes into making it work should not be entirely your burden, you know? Go at your own pace and treat both your boundaries and your ladyfriend’s boundaries with respect, that is all anyone can ever expect of anyone else when it comes to dating. Be yourself! And again, you are not lying to anyone.

Approaches to dating will be different for everyone but this is my personal take and I hope it helps at all. :) Be safe, and good luck!

staying alive

The only thing that keeps me from killing myself is that I know my mom will be very sad 

thelifeofkaiblog said: My boyfriend & I feel like this about each other. I don’t think I could do it, but my boyfriend probably could :/ When he’s depressed, he says he’s fed up of living for other people, but he also says that I keep him alive - so it’s needed sometimes. 

My grandma just called me a spinster because I never have a boyfriend…

 I just don’t have the energy to explain her I am a gay transman and am still figuring everything out… Don’t want to jump in a random relationship without being comfortable with myself… Her saying that hurts more than I expected

thelifeofkaiblog said: If your grandma won’t understand your trans status, it may help a little that she will still see you as a masculine “hetero” when you date a guy, in the future. You know who you are, though, and that is worth more than her opinion. 

venyal said: I hear you. what people say are just perceptions, and they don’t define you. What hurts is a lack of acceptance and understanding from the ones you love. Find refuge in those who love you as you are. Sending love your way. 

I'm living with people whom i love, but

they not seeing who I am. For many reasons I gotta stay in the closet for some time. And there is no transman support group where i am. The loneliness is unbearable. anyone struggling with loneliness?

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i feel like i’m slowly killing myself

binding until my ribs ache, starving myself in order to maintain a too thin androgynous appearance, staying inside to avoid being misgendered or judged. this body feels like a battlefield, like i’m some kind of disease it’s trying to reject… i feel so run down and tired. i just want to be who i am, but there’s so many obstacles and it’s overwhelming.

hate myself

All I can see when I look at myself is a guy's face but almost nobody I'm out to calls me by the right pronouns and when I'm binding people who don't know me still think I'm a girl and i hate it and kinda myself for it

Genderqueer?

Names Marcel. Genderqueer. I Dunno bout most of you but sometimes being genderqueer sucks cuz I feel like I don’t fit anywhere… 

Like I still question if I’m trans and if I am i dunno if I could ever have the guts to go through the transition, and if I’m not I feel like people in the straight and gay community look at me like I’m just another trend following confused girl… 

Even people in the gay community look at genderqueer and trans questioning people like they are just another trend.. Like I can’t even be open about my name change cuz I’m afraid of people not respecting it. I don’t want to face the embarrassment… 

How do you get past people judging you for…basically not knowing who you are yet? 

BJ fantasies

I feel like since transitioning (2 years in less than a month on hormones, pre-op ) I'm open to ALL sexes and identities where as before transitioning I wasn't, what's wrong with me? Im having fantasies giving blow jobs to cis males gay and straight

Much love

Love the blog. Much love my friends👌🏼😀

— jesuisunours

is there?

Is there a transwoman version of this blog

can't open up

I’m scared of telling my mum, not for the fact that I’ll get ridiculed or anything, just the pure fact that I can’t open up to people.

Forgetting that I'm AFAB

I both love and hate those little moments where I actually forget that I am AFAB. I love it for a moment because I feel normal, then reality come crashing back and I’m miserable.

T recall

Anyone hear about the T gel and patch recall on TV? Get’s me scared that pellet injections will be defective. 

I watch porn and I want to watch FTM porn

I'm starting to realize that other trans* guys are really attractive. I can't find any. Does anyone have suggestions?

Sometimes my dysphoria makes me want to kill myself so badly

but I'm afraid to talk to anyone about it because I don't want to make my other transgender friends more dysphoric or feel like I need to rely on them, and no one else would understand.

I'm a transman, and I have a 13 y/o gender neutral sibling that really wants to wear a binder

but the idea scares me. I've been wearing a binder for a year, and I don't think I need to explain that it's not a 100% pleasant experience. I think 13 is too young to wear a binder. What do you think?

i'll never have love

Not as a girl, not as a transguy. I'm too ugly to ever have a man in my life.

i came out to my husband today

and I am terrified. Not physically: he would never hurt me. But he’s not gay, and I don’t think he will handle me presenting as male. I’m pretty sure this is the end of our marriage. 

(there's a reason why she's an 'ex')

I just gotta get this out. My ex girlfriend identified as a lesbian when we were together and then got upset that I told her it made me uncomfortable. She said she felt I wasn't accepting who she was. It hurt me because I'm not a fucking girl.

Who tf is christopher khor

 and why is he such a disgrace? I'm confused

respect pronouns

To that anon, even if you're pissed off about Christopher, respect his gender pronouns.