Just wanna thank

the admin for creating this page! I feel less lonely knowing that there are other trans guys in Singapore.

[Singapore]

My girlfriend wants

Anonymous asked:My girlfriend wants me to open up to her about my dysphoria, but when I do she assumes I'm just depressed and hate my life. I wish she would understand how it feels. Ftm USA

Hey there champ, there’s no easy way to deal with this and you have to understand that it’s probably harder for your girlfriend to comprehend because unlike you, she hasn’t had to live with this all her life. So give her some room and some time.

From personal experience, communication between my partner and me started to improve after we went for counselling. Look for a counsellor/ therapist in your area, go for a couple of sessions to see if you’re comfortable, then introduce your girlfriend to the sessions.

I hope it all works out and you both find your peace soon. Keep us posted on the progress? 

x

I don't actually want

my best friends' parents to know about my transition, but it would be hard to hide the truth as they do ask about me from time to time.

[AZ, Singapore]

Friends will always remember

me as 'that girl who turned into a boy'. I wish they would just think that I died or something.

[TY, Singapore]

Depo provera

Are there any trans guys on depo provera? It's a birth control shot that might stop period. It's injected into the buttocks or arm muscle every 3 months. I'm looking for ways to stop shark week from coming without being on T yet. TIA!

[Pre everything, Singapore]

It is really hard

being a transguy. Have to face issues with own identity, concerns about future, inferiority when being placed beside other guys(I am very short. I am not manly enough(well, it is still not easy to change some characters especially being raised as a female for so many years)), issues with family, issues with friends, etc. There is just a whole lump of problems that unknowingly bothers me even when I try not to get affected. 

Hi, I have always identified as a butch

but recently I figure that I might be transgender. I am uncomfortable with my body and being perceived as female, but there are many butches who are fine with their gender even though they bind, desire to work towards a more masculine body and prefer male pronouns. I understand that butches do not want to be male, but the line between is becoming blurred, how do I know whether I am transgender and should medically transition? Thanks for the help.

[U, Singapore] 

Do anyone know whether

transman/traswoman would be able to join the singapore police force in positions like CID/CNB officer or investigation officers.

Like after our SRS and legal gender change? What if we were like total stealth mode, but i guess the government still has our data? I never wanted me being a trans affecting my dream of becoming an officer. But i guess i would never be able to be one this life. Sigh....

[Now a male, soon to be female, Singapore]

I feel kindda lost

right now, and my gf is making things harder for me.

i am currently jobless, it's really tough to find a job, especially when people saw me, my name and my appearance don't match. i'm pre-everything at the moment.

i got together with my gf as a lesbian couple, after a year or so, i came out to her, our relationship got stressed. this is the 5th year we are together, she promised me to help me with my dsyphoria, and following me to see psychiatrist. however, whenever i brought up issues on trans related matters, my struggles and especially on Testosterone, she would just say:' if you dare go on T, i'll break up with you.'

she is getting on my nerves at times. i don't know whether i should give up this relationship or trying to save this relationship. she's been my backbone and been through thick and thin with me.

i just dont know how to talk to her anymore. and now i had to choose whether to work in my homeland or in singapore, i dont mind the long distance relationship, but my gf cant. i asked her to decide and i'll try my best to suit her cause everytime i make a decision, she'll just ruin it for me.

sometimes i just feel giving up on everything. life sucks. every wondeful things or persons i had in my life, ended up got taken away, and i must please others, or else i'm deemed stupid or disrespectful.

[Anon]

Just curious, what does it

really mean when some girls tell you that they are only attracted to women and FTMs? So if a FTM does not come out as trans, will they not be attracted to him because he will appear as a cisgender guy to them?

[Transguy, Singapore]

Hello! Friendly lesbian

here again. 
Today i chanced upon this spoken word performance on YouTubeabout transgendered youth and thought that I should share this with you  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRLSgPQG0c4 

To all the Melissa and James' out there !

[Singapore]

My husband told me

that he was not certain he’d stay with me if I decided to transition. 

[thehousewizzard]

I don't even know where

to turn to even start transitioning in Singapore, I got my hopes up at NUH, but they told me they were discontinuing that program. I want to go into acting and comedy, which is already difficult for a cis person, much less someone who might be transitioning in the next few years.

I'm so afraid I'm going to lose so many of my close friends. Sometimes there're just certain things some people can't accept. I'm afraid that my parents will never acknowledge the change. I'm afraid I will never dare to love.

If there is a God, he sure is cruel.

[Singapore]

I've always loved transmen.

I just never got around to dating one and neither have I ever known what it would be like.

[trophy girl, Singapore] 

I am a transgender MTF

from Singapore, I am a Buddhist, religious and vegetarian diet, I like to do community service such as volunteering, a trans with a noble heart. I am a female trapped in a Male's body.

[Singapore]

Get a job first and do well.

Replying to this post : https://www.facebook.com/TransmanSG/posts/686449851413469?stream_ref=10

I want to transition but I am so afraid that I will not be employed.
[transguy, Singapore]

Dear OP,

Allow me to share my story….

After i left uni, i aimed to transition at the age of 30 after i have save more than enough for backup. By the age of 29, i had the material things i want…a nice car , condo etc. However, thanks to certain unfortunate circumstances which i will not go into details, i sank into huge debts. I could no longer afford to upkeep my car and condo and even after selling those liabilities off, I was still in debt! I was devastated and was at the lowest point of my life.

I did ponder ending my life but i told myself that things happen for a reason. It might be a test of my strength to see if i can handle being a man.

It took me 4 years to pay off my debt,thanks to a well paying job. During the 4 debt ridden years in butch wear, andro office wear, i dragged myself to work and told myself i must endure the miserable times for the only way out that time to get out of debt and afford surgery was to stick to my job.

The day i paid off my debt,i bought myself a bottle of wine to celebrate the good days in advance and made an appointment with the psychiatrist to start taking hormone. The following month, i tailored a men's suit,bought a few men's shirts and started dressing more manly to work. It was to slowly prepare my colleagues about my change. My boss and ex colleagues are aware of my transition. My boss doesn't give a damn as to him work and personal affairs don't go together. Some colleagues were supportive, some did not mention it and we continued to work together. (I'm not sure if people gossiped behind my back but i don't give a shit). I'm now in another company and only the hr lady who interviewed me know about my past.

I advise u OP, to get a job first and do well. Don't doubt that you can't be employed be it pre or post transition. It's actually easier to transition in your current job where your colleagues and boss already know you than move to a new job while u just started hormones and then attract gossips about a female growing more hair, voice getting deeper.

In order to have the money to transition, you need to think long term.... i.e.have sufficient funds for surgery and savings to tide u over in case you lose your job due to transitioning. In this era, It's highly unlikely as your work performance is more important than how u look. Assuming you really do get the sack or you will be unhappy in your job, at least you have relevant work experience by then.

If you are not able to get a well paying job,just get any jobs you can lay your hands on first. Always set aside money in the "transition funds" no matter how hard it is. Assuming you will not highly paid, when you want to buy something be it for yourself or to impress girls, ask yourself whether you really need it and will spending the $ on the girl gets you laid? Every single penny counts. Always spend your money on beneficial things like healthy food or enrichment stuff.

You have to ask yourself how badly you want to transition. I have to be direct here…fearing that you will not be employed shows that your intention to transition is not strong enough. When there's a will, there's a way!

I would say luck plays a small part in my employment. The biggest part is that i believe i will still have a career. If i can't be employed,then i'll start a business. (being an insurance or real estate agent, doing network marketing falls under the category of being self employed too) There are many ways to earn money and worried about being unemployed is not your major concern. What you should be thinking about now is letting your family know about your plan, taking care of your health and saving up for your surgery. At least go for the first surgery so that you can change your ID. Next you can start to save up more to complete the transition.
Good luck and all the best! 

[Singapore]

Hello! I'm not a transman

just a friendly lesbian here. 
I just want to say that you guys are wonderful. 
I can't imagine what it must feel like to be in this situation and I would like to apologise on the behalf of all of the bigoted and ignorant people who ever judged or treated you badly because of who you are. 

I admire your courage and resilience to stay strong. 
Trans issues are often swept under the rug in the LGBT community and support structures are often not in place for those who need it. 

Good luck and jiayou! 
Just know that there are people out there were are cheering on for you, even though the moral support can only translate to so little.

[Anon]

Greetings. First off. I am not a Transman.

Actually I was born (female) Intersexed.Yes I look like a woman, no i don't have double body parts. however. I was once married to a Transman while Away and in Singapore. In the Spectrum of gender and sexuality . I feel I am most comfortable in a pairing with a Transboy/Transman.

Yes this sounds like a let me throw myself at you .. its not. I have been looking for transfellows for ages.. where do you all hide? Older and much wiser . Looking for a better connection than I am having..

I saw my gf turned hubby go thru this arduous painful process and open to be a listening ear and friend. i am leaving my contact with the Admin. do get in touch . thank you

[Singapore] 

I have been deceiving

my online pal of my true gender. All of them thinks I am a boy, but in reality I am biologically female. My profile pictures gives nothing away, but one of them commented that I could be a pretty girl. I fear her reaction when she finds out about the truth. Do you tell, or just act nonchalant about it?

[Manns, Singapore]

I am a gay man

in his early twenties and I must say that I have little to no understanding of the troubles, trials and tribulations that any transgender person goes through. I would like to get to know more of the local community and how life is like for the average transgendered person! So finding this page on LSC was really nice 

Please do forgive my ignorance... I guess that in such a small LGBTIQ community, it wasn't easy for me to have gotten to know any transgendered person while growing up. 

P.S.: I hope this doesn't gross any one of you out, but I think some transgendered males are hot 

[Singapore]

I often wonder

whether transitioning is all worth it. Is it better to pretend to identify as a butch? At least people are considered okay with butches/lesbians. Employability is probably higher too. Is anyone having this doubt as well?

[Pre T guy, Singapore]

It hurts when

society can't accept you for who you are. But it hurts even more when your loved ones can't. But it hurts most when you can't even accept yourself.
Being a lesbian never came close to the pain I have to go through now

[Tguy, Singapore]

I want to transition

but I am so afraid that I will not be employed. 

[transguy, Singapore]